You must dress a certain way, talk a certain way, go to only certain places/venues for vacation, you must vote a certain way, in other words, you must march in lock-step to whatever that so-called “community” demands this week, or you are quite simply, out of the group. They fall into this separation paradigm, hook, line and sinker. I for one, don’t like to be around any guys who identify with the “gay community” any more. The social paradigm of separating homosexual leaning and heterosexual leaning men, which began as “gay identiy” in the late 1800’s, has been harmful to all men, no matter what gets them hard. It destroyed intimate friendships between these men to the point where if they went off with just their buddy(s) for the weekend, or out to dinner, or on a vacation, or (gasp!)-hugged or otherwise touched each other, scandal and the horrible suggestion of homosexuality was in the air, and could ruin them. It also separated them to the point that they couldn’t be intimate with their best friends and buddies, they had to marry one woman and never have sex with anyone else again. It was never right for society to separate a subgroup of men from their brothers, and instill fear, hatred and loathing into the larger group that leans towards women. Aires the I think that old paradigm of separating men who lean towards women, and men who lean towards men, is beginning to die a much deserved death.